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Just a reminder that lesbians aren’t just skinny cis white girls! There are black lesbians, fat lesbians, trans lesbians, disabled lesbians, depressed lesbians, etc. Dont just reblog posts with 2 white girls laughing and act like that’s the epitome of lesbianism…that’s a problem.
s/o to sapphic girls with defined jawlines, broad shoulders, cold hands. s/o to girls with bony elbows and knees who feel like no one will think theyre pretty and soft and want to cuddle with them. s/o to every girl who doesnt fit the mold of short, soft, skinny, white sapphics, who think they wont be loved and welcome in the wlw community. youre the bomb.com and girls will love you just as much, i promise!!
valthevoidgal asked:
perpetualteenelf answered:
Thank you so much. I feel undeserving of being role model!! It may not be my place, but I hope it’s okay if I offer you some advice I’ve learned over the years. I never had someone to do that, and I know how lonely it can be, and how much you wish someone could relate.
I. Trust yourself, your instinct, above everything else in existence. More than you desire anything, desire to know yourself for who really are. Once you do, no one can ever take that away from you, and you can be invincible. Everything you stand for and know and believe can be rooted in your own soul. Don’t give up your one shot at happiness in this life because of someone else, no matter who they are. Your life, your rules, your will, always.
II. Pity, not anger. There will be moments you feel unbearably angry at the world, yourself, the people that rejected you, and the people that actively try to dehumanize you. Sometimes anger can be a powerful motivator to create change. But often it just destroys you from the inside out. If you can learn to pity and feel sorry for those that hurt you, you won’t feel attached to them or their words and actions any longer. You’ll feel free and confident and grounded. You won’t have bitterness and resentment and you won’t spend years spilling angry tears over people that will never be sorry. So pity them. Win their game. Be grateful you don’t treat others the way that they do. Feel sorry for them that their hate will burn them up. But it doesn’t have to be that way for you, is what I mean.
III. Just ignore terfs, please, I beg you. Don’t go searching out their posts, don’t engage with them, don’t think about them. Pity not anger, right? People like that are so miserable that they want to make everyone else miserable too. However, no one is born hating someone else, terfs included. However misguided, you’re dealing a human like you. Someone hurt and broken who’s got a lot of pain, too. And more often than not, they’re looking to vent and express, not to reason or have any desire to learn. The more understanding and empathy you practise, the less you are restrained by this world. Compassion isn’t given because someone deserves it; it’s given because they need it. Furthermore, we as trans people are easy targets, so please don’t let them bait you into arguments; that’s what they want. The want to get you angry so they can call you an aggressive violent male and back their argument and on and on it goes. So for your own well-being, just avoid them, please. No amount of attempts on your part to reason will ever to change the mind of a person who is unwilling to change, and that should be said of family members, too. If you want, think of it this way- trans people are fraction of the people in the world, a very, very small group. Yet nearly all fear us. How powerful are you that your mere existence can make so many question their perception of reality? That is a fucking gift that everyone in the world wishes that had, and guess what? You’ve got it.
IV. You will have some loss. You’ll have to reason with some things you can’t change about yourself and your past, and you’ll have to have to walk away from family members or friends. Don’t let this deter you- your path is a beautiful one. Don’t let others take that away, remember? You wouldn’t let someone stomp on your physical heart; you’d die without it. So please don’t let them do that mentally or emotionally, either. Or maybe this way: if a plant has dead leaves, you want to prune them so the plant can flourish. You don’t want precious resources diverted to something that isn’t going to grow along with you and only take from you. Other loss could be a string of jobs you have to leave because your coworkers want to hurt you. Maybe they are coworkers you really loved. Again, you don’t have to give people the continual opportunity to hurt you, however hard that goodbye might be. And if you can remember to practise empathy and realise that these are hurt people who are merely projecting their own suffering onto you, you’ll have a lighter and more open heart.
V. Being trans isn’t something that has to be negative, or something that is a bad lot in life. It can be beautiful, uplifting, enriching, inspiring, poetic. My husband taught me that if something is rare and precious in the world, then you cherish it. And to be trans is a very rare thing indeed, and no less precious than the rarity of a gemstone or exotic flower. Being trans is a gift!!!! For example, how many people in the world can say they truly know themselves, will die knowing who they are?? Hardly any, and will spend their lives searching for that answer externally. But you have been given the perfect chance to find out and enjoy that peace. You have the chance to help others find it too, if you so wish.
So I know I’ve droned on and I’m sorry if this advice is unwarranted! Possibly finally, always question everything: including this advice!! And thank you for your kindness. Wishing you happiness xxx
why do straight ppl assume us gays to be soo attracted to them like your fashion sucks. Do you even know how to use a sword? Smfh
hey lesbians heres a reminder: ur tacky lesbian fashion is VALID
Is it “ugly”? Is it “mismatched”? Have you been called “a disheveled bog woman”? Do you do 13 layers? Do you exclusively wear turtlenecks and dress like a combination of every decade?
You are VALID!
why do straight ppl assume us gays be soo attracted to them like your fashion sucks. Do you even know how to use a sword? Smfh
Straight people invented the myth that denim on denim is a bad look because they hate lesbians
Nah sis that was perpetrated by the gays trying to save the lesbians from their self destructive fashion choices
If you don’t support lesbians wearing the most outrageously ugly fashion imaginable then you don’t support lesbians
Butch culture is flirting via cooking.
Look I’m just saying that if I say something like “Hey, what kind of foods do you like? You should totally come over and I can make something for you.”, it means I like you in a lesbian fashion.
Lower your voice…..
(based on people i know irl/on tumblr)
lesbians: have their life together, or at least act like it. snapbacks and flannels for days. takes a Lot of selfies just 2 admire later. Cool Mom™ vibe
bi girls: damm do these girls love their flag colors!!! fashion sense is 👌🏻also so many fucken Puns and fun facts
pan girls: radiate this weird Sunshine Aura??? like idk how to describe it but y'all are so Bright u know?? optimistic and smiling and just Happy it’s good
nonbinary wlw: probably has dyed hair and listens to fall out boy. gay but won’t admit it. talks about existence and psychology to friends to weird them out
trans wlw: pro @ video games and generally chill but will debate u for DAYS and win. usually have cool hobbies n stories to tell. probably a communist
